Philippians 2:12 Wherefore, my beloved, as ye have always obeyed, not as in my presence only, but now much more in my absence, work out your own salvation with fear and trembling.
13 For it is God which worketh in you both to will and to do of his good pleasure.
Have you really thought about YOUR salvation? Paul was actually asking if his followers had obeyed his teachings of salvation in his absence or just in his presence. In other words are we depending on a person for our salvation rather than ourselves. To many times we see people that follow a preacher wherever he goes because they think their salvation depends on being where he is. But not so, it tells us to work out own salvation with fear and trembling. If we depend on man for salvation we are in trouble cause man will let us down. A lot of times this hard to do cause we get in a church and think things should go our way because of how we believe and think our ways are the best ways to salvation. Well we can not cannot control someone else salvation just like they have no control over ours. Verse 13 tells us it is God that does the work in us to do His will and good pleasure. If we let someone cause us to have hurt feelings we are letting them affect our salvation and likewise if we cause someone hurt we are affecting our salvation and theirs. So again it is to us work out our own salvation with fear and trembling and do not worry about whether other people are for you or against you. You need to be in church where you going to fed to sustain your salvation.